Yes, yes. I know it's been a while but life tends to get a little hectic at times. For instance, right now the hubs and I are in the middle of having our master bathroom remodeled. We are now on our second contractor, second crew and are finally making some progress. If I happen to see our first contractor though, don't be surprised if I go all Waterboy on him and punch him in his medulla oblongata! Needless to say, we probably will never be friends.
So that leads me to the topic of the day. Friends. The title of this post has now gotten that TLC song stuck in my head. See if it doesn't get stuck in yours too. Anyway, I'm wondering about you guys and who you consider your friends. I have 579 "friends" on Facebook. Wow! That can make a person feel good about themselves. But let's be real here. About 549 of them are what I actually consider an acquaintance. I don't mean that in a bad way and I definitely don't want to lose them as "friends." I simply mean they don't call me to chat or text me or check on my kids when they get sick, nor do I with them. All they know about me is what I choose to put out there for them to see. I'm sure most of us are the same way and if I offend you by saying it, then I apologize, but if you think you are really that close to all of those friends, you may need to re-evaluate. Seriously, I don't have time to text with 579 friends every week! I do have some that I'd like to tell you about though. So sit back and get to know me (and my friends) a little better.
My husband is my best friend. I tell him everything, even things he doesn't want to hear. He always gets worried when I say, "so I've been thinking." He knows it's either about to cost him money or the house is going to look different in some way. Yet still, he remains my best friend. I actually apologized to him Sunday morning because he has to wake up and see me at my worst every morning when I am definitely NOT a morning person. Puffy eyes, no makeup, crazy hair, unshaved legs, paintless nails and a poochy tummy. Yet he remains my best friend. I'm still trying to figure out what he sees, but I have to thank God he doesn't see what I see some days! Thank you God for letting him see the good!
Barely second to the hubs are my parents. My mom and dad are some of the best friends I could have. I don't know what the rules are about best friends, but if I'm allowed more than one, lets go ahead and add them to that list. I talk to my mom almost every day. If we don't talk, we at least text and check in. I know I can go to them for anything. And they know when to give advice and when to keep their mouths closed and just let me vent. I hope I can be that way with my kids one day. I figure I'll always be the parent who wants to tell them what I think is best instead of letting them figure it out on their own. My bad.
I have had four other ladies in my 37 years on this earth whom I have considered a best friend (Jamie, Christy, Wendy & Nicki). Those three girls were with me through so much from kindergarten to college. One of them even stood by me when the hubs and I married, even after we had a period of time when we weren't the best of friends. I thank God she forgave me for my mouth getting overloaded with hurtful words. But sometimes forgiveness doesn't come easy between friends and all you can do is move on, pray for forgiveness and understand that some things can't be forgotten.
I had two other friends (a guy and a girl) who pretty much saw me through the first two years of college. We did almost everything together. We had our inside jokes which to this day, no one else would ever get. We had known each other since 7th grade. Sadly, these two friends are no longer here on earth with us. Both were taken in such sudden ways that the shock of losing them took a long time to get through. I love still being able to talk to my friend Dan's mom and sister about the good (and bad) times we had. Through his sick days and his well days. God just knew it was Dan's time to go Home even though we weren't ready to say good-bye. We lost our friend Sha to domestic violence in 2004. You think it could never happen to you or one of your friends, but it can...and it does. To this day I want to do more to help combat domestic violence. Honestly, I get so pissed off when I think about it because she should have been protected. All DV victims should be protected. If you or someone you know is a victim, please click here and try to get help.
I have grown a lot through the years. My parents always told me my friends would change with the stages of my life, and they weren't kidding! My friends now are married and have kids and we have a hard time getting together to do things because of those kids. But man when we do, we have a good time! This group of ladies, I could turn to in a heartbeat with any need and they would be at my doorstep with open arms....and food. And I would do the same for them. So to Laura, Johnna, Ruby, Kim, Kristy, Amy and Jamie---thank you!
So.....that's me. That's my thoughts on friends and some that I've had through the years. Of course, these aren't my only friends, just a few I wanted to talk about. I could fill pages with stories of friends and things we've done but I want you to still read my blog. I also want you to think about your friends- past, present and future. Call them. Text them. Check in with that person who has been on your mind, but you just haven't found the time to contact. That's an easy way to make someones day. Don't take those close friends for granted. We are not guaranteed an infinite amount of time.
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